A friend and I were having one of our usual deep conversations about the wrongs of life. He asked me a question that’s been glued in my mind since I’ve heard it. The question was ” Who said life was going to be fair, or that it was even meant to be fair?” I admit his question was a good one. It made me think about what almost everyone was taught or even had to learn: That life isn’t fair. It sounds like a let down, but it’s absolutely true. Since I’d been pondering this I’ve decided to touch bases on it.
One mistake we make as teens or adults is that we feel sorry for ourselves, or for others, thinking that life should be fair, or that hopefully someday it will be. It’s not and it never will. When we make this mistake we tend to spend a lot of time sitting around and complaining about what’s wrong with life. We go and talk with others, discussing the injustices of life. “It’s not fair,” We complain, not actually realizing that, maybe, it was never intended to be,
One of the good things about surrendering to the fact that life isn’t fair is that it keeps us from feeling sorry for ourselves by encouraging us to do the very best we can with what we have. Everyone knows that it’s not ” Life’s job” to make everything perfect, it’s our own challenge. Surrendering to this fact also keeps us from feeling sorry for others because we are reminded that everyone is dealt a different hand, and everyone has unique strengths and challenges. It almost always wakes me up to reality and puts me back on track.
The fact that life isn’t fair doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do everything in our power to improve our own lives or the world as a whole. It actually suggests that we should. When we don’t recognize or admit that life isn’t fair, we tend to feel pity for others and for ourselves. Pity, of course, is a self conflicting emotion that does nothing for anyone, except to make everyone feel even worse than they already do. The next time you find yourself thinking about the injustices of the world, try remembering this very basic fact. You may be surprised that it can push you out of self – pity and into positive action.
With Heart & Soul,
– Brandon Robinson