Impressing a girl may be easier than you think.

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There’s many ways to a woman’s heart, some as simple as listening, laughing, and a sweet gesture. Some of these are from personal experience, others from female I’ve conversed with.

A guy that takes action

It’s not that often you hear about a guy planning a night out or an elaborate dinner for his lady, Women absolutely love and are extremely touched when men take the time to think up a great adventure for the two of them.

He Listens

This was a unanimous, across-the-board comment from the women I’ve talked with. A guy who truly listens and remembers things they say or things they care about is a gem in their eyes.

Straight-Shooter

He doesn’t adhere to the 2-day “No text, No call” rule. He tells you how he feels and what he is looking for. He may have game, but doesn’t play it with her or in his dating life.

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The small stuff

He knows you’ve had a stressful day, so he brings over your favorite tea latte. Or he goes around the neighborhood and collects flowers, putting them in a lovely vase for you when you get home. It’s not about elaborate gifts for most women, but the thought that counts.

Guy’s ability to let go

EVERY couple has their arguments, and a guy who can say,”Hey, lets move forward and not hold onto this,” is one that they are especially enamored with. It’s not easy for anyone to let go of anger or pain and truly move on, but women appreciate a guy who can.

He takes care of himself

A guy who cares about all aspects of his stature, including emotional health and physical ( and understands that those are important areas to tend to) is truly impressive.

Just for Fun, Agree with criticism Directed Toward You (Then Watch It Go Away)

Im Back everyone from my long break. Here we go.

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So often we are immobilized by the slightest criticism. We treat it like an emergency, and defend ourselves as if we were in a battle. In truth, however, criticism is nothing more than an observation by another person about us, our actions, or the way we think about something, that doesn’t match the vision we have of ourselves. Big deal!

When we react to critisicm with a knee-jerk, defensive response, it hurts. We feel attacked, and we need to defend or to offer a counter for criticism. We fill our minds with angry or hurtful thoughts directed at ourselves or at the person who is being critical. All this reaction takes an enormous amount of mental energy.

An incredibly useful exercise is to agree with criticism directed toward you. I’m not talking about turning into a doormat or ruining your self-esteem by believing all negativity that comes in your direction. I’m only suggesting that there are many times when simply agreeing with critisicm defususes the situation, satisfies a person’s need to express a point of view, offers you a chance to learn something about yourself by seeing a grain of truth in another position, and, perhaps most important, provides you an opportunity to remain calm.

One of the first times I consciously agreed with critiscm directed toward me was many years ago when my girlfriend said to me, “Sometimes you talk too much.” I remember feeling momentarily hurt before deciding to agree. I responded by saying, “You’re right, I do talk too much sometimes.” I discovered something that changed my life. In agreeing with her, I was able to see that she had a good point. I often do talk too much! What’s more, my nondefensive reaction helped her to relax. A few minutes later she said, ” You know, you’re easy to talk to.” I doubt she would have said that had I become angry at her observation. Since then, i’ve learned that reacting to criticism never makes it go away. In fact, reacting with negative energy makes the person think they are accurate in their profile of you.

Give this strategy a try. I think you’ll discover that agreeing with an occasional criticism has more value than it costs.

-Signed with love,
Brandon Robinson